Join guest facilitators Ardeo and River as we delve into the queer sex education you didn’t get in high school! In the first part of this workshop we talk about consent basics, definitions of what sex actually is, tools for setting boundaries, resources for exploring desire and what ethical porn means. In the second part of the workshop we go over some information about STBBI transmission and local testing services as well as barrier demos (making a dental dam, using an internal condom, using an external condom, gloves). We then finish off with some sex toy and lube basics! We centre queer and trans experiences throughout and take a harm reduction lens. For privacy reasons, the question period of this workshop has been excluded from the recording.
This workshop by Ardeo and River was recorded live in March 2021 as part of the Spring (Un)Learning Together community workshop series organized by the Anti-Violence Project. To access workshop resources or to make inquiries please contact
Ardeo Mann (they/them) – Ardeo is a young, queer, non-binary facilitator and farmer. They are a white settler with Ashkenazi (from Poland and Ukraine/Russia) and Serbian (from Bosnia and Herzegovina) roots on their dad’s side and ancestry from England, Wales, Scotland and Ireland on their mum’s side, living uninvited on W̱SÁNEĆ lands. They grew up on the territory of the Lkwungen speaking peoples at čən’it taŋ’exw. Ardeo was involved with AVI through the Queer Peers program for a number of years which led to the creation of this sex ed workshop and a passion for changing how conversations about sex, relationships and queerness are happening inside the school system and beyond. When they’re not facilitating workshops, they can be found growing mountains of vegetables, curled up with a book and a cup of tea or planning their next camping adventure.
River Stevens (they/them) – River is a trans, genderqueer, neurodivergent, white settler. Their family is from Scotland, Ireland, England, Ukrainian, Belurus, Poland, Germany, Paumanok, Netherlands, Switzerland and France. They grew up on the territories of the kwayhquitlum people and currently live on Lək̓ʷəŋən territories (sxʷeŋxʷəŋ təŋəxʷ). They were a part of the Queer Peers collective at AVI for a number of years, and continue to facilitate workshops through AVI as well as other community organizations. They also facilitate Harbour, a peer support group for trans, two spirit and non binary youth that runs out of the Victoria Foundry. In their other work, they are a farm hand, baker, granola maker and house spouse.